Saturday, 21 April 2012
how old are you?
I was at work the other day and a co-worker of mine shared a story about some 20-somethings that she had encountered. this got me thinking about our ages and how we describe them. if we don't want to say the specific age of someone or of ourselves there is any easy way to be close without being specific. we will use the age group of 40-50 year olds. if someones age falls right ont he even decade (30,40 50) then thats easy we use that as their name. 41-43...early 40's. 44-46 mid 40's. 47-49 late 40's. so using this formula I am in my mid 20's. this of course, is not perfect science. if you don't knwo the specific age of the person you are referring to then you are probably guessign in which case if you guess young, chances are the person you are referring to will be pleased. if you guess too old, well then thats your mistake. and this my friends, you can take to the bank.
Thursday, 26 January 2012
backing in
most people who have driveways or parking spots to park their car at the end of the day do not have the luxury or having a "drive through" spot. you need to stop in your garage, stall, or spot. In the morning when it is time to drive again you must back out your vehicle and start your day. How come hardly anyone backs in when parking? either way at some point you're going to have to drive in reverse. I try to back in when parking. here is why, 1) when you hop in your car and just start driving it feels bad ass to just go. 2) sometimes (or often, if you're like me and wait till the last minute) you're in a rush and you can save some precious seconds by not having to back out. nobody ever arrives home in a rush, but lots of people leave in a rush. so I ask you world, why don't more people back in when parking?
Monday, 26 December 2011
Leaving KDA
a while back I ended my employment at KDA. After the feelings and emotions of leaving subsided I started reflecting on my time at KDA.
When I think back on my time there I can't help but think about the huge impact my time there made on me not only as a dancer but as a person.
I arrived in 2007 and got the job on a recomendation of a previous teacher, I was ready to not dance thinking that I would be focusing exclusively on school. Luckily, I was fortunate to be given a job.
I will take much from my time at KDA. I learned and gained lots: I had a love of hip hop ignited in me making me a better, more rounded, and more confident dancer. I learned how to cultivate "class culture" by trying to give my students the most enjoyable and most productive class possible. I learned how the minds of teenage girls work, although I still have lots to learn on that one. The biggest thing I will take though is my passion for teaching and mentoring. I love dancing and taking class but being able to pass on knowledge and ideas to me was the most rewarding.
The times I felt best as a teacher is when the class was doing exercises or choreography and just catching the smiles on the faces of the students. Seeing your students smile was always worth way more than any compliments after class. I know it sounds corny but its so true. The other moments that were really great for me is explaining a move or step and having students give me the look of "I can't do that" or "you're kidding" on their face and then within 10 minutes after practicing it a few times and maybe with a little bit of instruction they did it just fine, and again see the smile on their face. Once I became comfortable teaching I really starting emphasizing personal growth. Repeatedly I tried to make students aware of their attitudes and how that impacts every aspect of dance/life and how skills and attitudes in dance transfer to life. Some days I left the studio feeling like a motivational speaker but that's just how it goes.
I enjoyed my time at the studio and I loved teaching. my students know how much I certainly loved using quotes: "practice dancing nervous" "how you are in dance is how you are in life" "never say can't" and so forth. I will look back on my time with countless good memories. I hope that my impact on my students is so much more than learning how to do a pickup, wing, or scuffle and that they carry a good attitude with them moving forward. With my common use of quotes one of the ones I always told myself and tried to apply myself was "Young dancers are training at a very vulnerable time in their lives... So train the whole person, not just the dancer."
~ Deborah Bull
some of my favorite quotes:
When you take dancing lessons, you learn steps and you learn steps and you learn steps. It can go on for a long time. And then one day, you just learn to dance, and it is so different.
~ Bill Austin
The mirror is not you (dancing). The mirror is you looking at yourself.
~ George Balanchine
Nothing happens in the body without happening in the brain first... dancing is 95% mental.
~ Bobby Boling, A Dancer's Manual
The only way to do it is to do it.
~ Merce Cunningham
All dance has expression. If there is no expression, I prefer the circus. The performers do more dangerous, more difficult technical things than we do. But we are dancers. We have to express and we have to project.
~ Luis Fuente
What we hope ever to do with ease, we must first learn to do with diligence.
~ Samuel Johnson
Everyday there must be something I can't do, otherwise it's boring.
~ Monet Robie
Dancing's just a conversation between two people. Talk to me.
~ Steven Rogers, "Hope Floats"
Dance is the only art of which we ourselves are the stuff of which it is made.
~ Ted Shawn
The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.
~ William Arthur Ward
And finally....
Try to respect the student's spiritual feeling and intelligence. A human being is in your hands. If you don't love your students, it's better you don't teach. Give the truth always.
~ Maestro Hector Zaraspe
Thanks KDA, it's been a slice.
When I think back on my time there I can't help but think about the huge impact my time there made on me not only as a dancer but as a person.
I arrived in 2007 and got the job on a recomendation of a previous teacher, I was ready to not dance thinking that I would be focusing exclusively on school. Luckily, I was fortunate to be given a job.
I will take much from my time at KDA. I learned and gained lots: I had a love of hip hop ignited in me making me a better, more rounded, and more confident dancer. I learned how to cultivate "class culture" by trying to give my students the most enjoyable and most productive class possible. I learned how the minds of teenage girls work, although I still have lots to learn on that one. The biggest thing I will take though is my passion for teaching and mentoring. I love dancing and taking class but being able to pass on knowledge and ideas to me was the most rewarding.
The times I felt best as a teacher is when the class was doing exercises or choreography and just catching the smiles on the faces of the students. Seeing your students smile was always worth way more than any compliments after class. I know it sounds corny but its so true. The other moments that were really great for me is explaining a move or step and having students give me the look of "I can't do that" or "you're kidding" on their face and then within 10 minutes after practicing it a few times and maybe with a little bit of instruction they did it just fine, and again see the smile on their face. Once I became comfortable teaching I really starting emphasizing personal growth. Repeatedly I tried to make students aware of their attitudes and how that impacts every aspect of dance/life and how skills and attitudes in dance transfer to life. Some days I left the studio feeling like a motivational speaker but that's just how it goes.
I enjoyed my time at the studio and I loved teaching. my students know how much I certainly loved using quotes: "practice dancing nervous" "how you are in dance is how you are in life" "never say can't" and so forth. I will look back on my time with countless good memories. I hope that my impact on my students is so much more than learning how to do a pickup, wing, or scuffle and that they carry a good attitude with them moving forward. With my common use of quotes one of the ones I always told myself and tried to apply myself was "Young dancers are training at a very vulnerable time in their lives... So train the whole person, not just the dancer."
~ Deborah Bull
some of my favorite quotes:
When you take dancing lessons, you learn steps and you learn steps and you learn steps. It can go on for a long time. And then one day, you just learn to dance, and it is so different.
~ Bill Austin
The mirror is not you (dancing). The mirror is you looking at yourself.
~ George Balanchine
Nothing happens in the body without happening in the brain first... dancing is 95% mental.
~ Bobby Boling, A Dancer's Manual
The only way to do it is to do it.
~ Merce Cunningham
All dance has expression. If there is no expression, I prefer the circus. The performers do more dangerous, more difficult technical things than we do. But we are dancers. We have to express and we have to project.
~ Luis Fuente
What we hope ever to do with ease, we must first learn to do with diligence.
~ Samuel Johnson
Everyday there must be something I can't do, otherwise it's boring.
~ Monet Robie
Dancing's just a conversation between two people. Talk to me.
~ Steven Rogers, "Hope Floats"
Dance is the only art of which we ourselves are the stuff of which it is made.
~ Ted Shawn
The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.
~ William Arthur Ward
And finally....
Try to respect the student's spiritual feeling and intelligence. A human being is in your hands. If you don't love your students, it's better you don't teach. Give the truth always.
~ Maestro Hector Zaraspe
Thanks KDA, it's been a slice.
Thursday, 15 December 2011
car shopping
towards the end of October I decided to buy a car. It was an idea I was throwing my head for some time but the desire to buy a car was growing and growing and so I started to look.
side note: I love my scooter, but it can only do so much.
As I started to look for cars I wasn't sure what type of car to get: used, private, used dealership, or new. Buying a brand new car I wrote off relatively quickly, mostly because I still have plenty of student debt and didn't want to be making large monthly payments while still having all my student debt looming. So anyways, I decided to buy used and so I started looking and man was it frustrating.
inevitably there were two main issues: 1) when a private sale the car seemed to be a good deal but there was always something wrong with it> oh it's great but it needs new tires, oh it's great but is missing a strut, oh it's great but the timing belt is going to need to be replaced soon. every car I looked at there was at least one major issue that would have taken more time and money to replace therefore eliminating any cost savings. I actually found one car that I really loved but as I arranged with the guy to buy it from him someone else had looked at it and offered money on the spot. 2) when looking at a dealership you have to deal with car salesmen. normally salespeople are kind of irritating but they are just doing their job but I really hate car salespeople. they try and create a person connection with you and be your buddy at the same time try to manipulate you every step of the way. I just hate the power game they play trying to make you feel like they are in charge and you march to their drum. I'm the one who's willing to pay the money, might not hurt treating me like an intelligent human. the worst is when you start doing the price dance. you haggle and the sales person inevitably says "I'll bring this to my manager". suddenly the guy who's been telling you everything he can personally do for you such as maintenance and special offers has absolutely no power and must go to a different room and talk to someone that I as the consumer don't even see or talk to and come out with a slightly number. and then the sales person tells you "that's the best I can do". my initial reaction is "F*#& you that's all you can do" this guy is suddenly helpless and wants to convince me he did everything he could to get me the best deal. YA RIGHT!
I went and saw a number of private sales and even went to a few dealerships and when the dealers were just too big of schmucks I left. regardless of how good the car is, if the experience of buying the car is bad.... I'm out.
In the end I bought an old toyota. I could have probably have gotten it cheaper but I was done with the car search and just wanted a vehicle at that point.
side note: I love my scooter, but it can only do so much.
As I started to look for cars I wasn't sure what type of car to get: used, private, used dealership, or new. Buying a brand new car I wrote off relatively quickly, mostly because I still have plenty of student debt and didn't want to be making large monthly payments while still having all my student debt looming. So anyways, I decided to buy used and so I started looking and man was it frustrating.
inevitably there were two main issues: 1) when a private sale the car seemed to be a good deal but there was always something wrong with it> oh it's great but it needs new tires, oh it's great but is missing a strut, oh it's great but the timing belt is going to need to be replaced soon. every car I looked at there was at least one major issue that would have taken more time and money to replace therefore eliminating any cost savings. I actually found one car that I really loved but as I arranged with the guy to buy it from him someone else had looked at it and offered money on the spot. 2) when looking at a dealership you have to deal with car salesmen. normally salespeople are kind of irritating but they are just doing their job but I really hate car salespeople. they try and create a person connection with you and be your buddy at the same time try to manipulate you every step of the way. I just hate the power game they play trying to make you feel like they are in charge and you march to their drum. I'm the one who's willing to pay the money, might not hurt treating me like an intelligent human. the worst is when you start doing the price dance. you haggle and the sales person inevitably says "I'll bring this to my manager". suddenly the guy who's been telling you everything he can personally do for you such as maintenance and special offers has absolutely no power and must go to a different room and talk to someone that I as the consumer don't even see or talk to and come out with a slightly number. and then the sales person tells you "that's the best I can do". my initial reaction is "F*#& you that's all you can do" this guy is suddenly helpless and wants to convince me he did everything he could to get me the best deal. YA RIGHT!
I went and saw a number of private sales and even went to a few dealerships and when the dealers were just too big of schmucks I left. regardless of how good the car is, if the experience of buying the car is bad.... I'm out.
In the end I bought an old toyota. I could have probably have gotten it cheaper but I was done with the car search and just wanted a vehicle at that point.
Sunday, 6 November 2011
NYC
So I've been a lazy blogger, oh well.
This past summer I went to NYC. Instead of me telling you all the things I did and see I will give you my impressions of the city and my experience. The very first things I noticed upon arriving and that stuck with me is that NYC is a city of no bull shit. What I mean by that is that everyone is direct, there is no sugar coating things and you aska question you're gonna get a straight answer. For some people this might be upsetting or a bit too direct but I loved it, I thought it was hilarious that you ask someone a question of where to get info for a shuttle and before you realize it they are not only telling you which shuttle you want to take but have called for it, suggested some sight seeing, and passively hit on your sister.
The second thing I noticed is that everyone is out to make a buck. This certainly isn't something specific to NYC but I've never seen it more blatant. The shuttle driver toured around the terminal about 3 times looking to jam up the shuttle only to not, but her tried. So many people have tip expectations. The tip expectation was most evidenced by a tour bus driver who went on a 10 minute rant about how tipping is important and an indication of good service the world over. He was laying it on thick. The other searing image in my mind about people trying to make a buck is multiple people with plastic garbage bags or coolers filled with botled water selling it on the street for $1. Every time I saw this and a few other things I couldn't help but have Rick Ross' song "hustlin'" playing in my head repeatedly.
The third thing I noticed is just how compact this city is. We spent almost all of our time in Manhattan. Every couple blocks you stumble across some major landmark or event. heres's time square, oh here's madison square garden, oh here's Macy's (which is insane by the way). Being a city that is so compact and arguably the most famous city in the world it is of course crowded, my sister used the term overwhelming once or twice but I found it great. I loved how busy it was, there was so much energy in the city. I would not be so fond of all the people and noise and smell if I lived in NYC and had to face it on a daily basis but visiting and temporarily immersing myself in it was awesome.
Overall I loved the trip. I loved what New York had to offer, you could be there for a month and still not see everything you'd want to. I would not want to live in NYC but it sure was great to visit. Side note, the statue of liberty experience was the low-light of the trip.
This past summer I went to NYC. Instead of me telling you all the things I did and see I will give you my impressions of the city and my experience. The very first things I noticed upon arriving and that stuck with me is that NYC is a city of no bull shit. What I mean by that is that everyone is direct, there is no sugar coating things and you aska question you're gonna get a straight answer. For some people this might be upsetting or a bit too direct but I loved it, I thought it was hilarious that you ask someone a question of where to get info for a shuttle and before you realize it they are not only telling you which shuttle you want to take but have called for it, suggested some sight seeing, and passively hit on your sister.
The second thing I noticed is that everyone is out to make a buck. This certainly isn't something specific to NYC but I've never seen it more blatant. The shuttle driver toured around the terminal about 3 times looking to jam up the shuttle only to not, but her tried. So many people have tip expectations. The tip expectation was most evidenced by a tour bus driver who went on a 10 minute rant about how tipping is important and an indication of good service the world over. He was laying it on thick. The other searing image in my mind about people trying to make a buck is multiple people with plastic garbage bags or coolers filled with botled water selling it on the street for $1. Every time I saw this and a few other things I couldn't help but have Rick Ross' song "hustlin'" playing in my head repeatedly.
The third thing I noticed is just how compact this city is. We spent almost all of our time in Manhattan. Every couple blocks you stumble across some major landmark or event. heres's time square, oh here's madison square garden, oh here's Macy's (which is insane by the way). Being a city that is so compact and arguably the most famous city in the world it is of course crowded, my sister used the term overwhelming once or twice but I found it great. I loved how busy it was, there was so much energy in the city. I would not be so fond of all the people and noise and smell if I lived in NYC and had to face it on a daily basis but visiting and temporarily immersing myself in it was awesome.
Overall I loved the trip. I loved what New York had to offer, you could be there for a month and still not see everything you'd want to. I would not want to live in NYC but it sure was great to visit. Side note, the statue of liberty experience was the low-light of the trip.
Monday, 22 August 2011
food tug-o-war
everybody needs to eat. Sometimes, when we eat it's messy. Sometimes, when we eat it looks like our head has a weight pulling it towards the plate. Let me explain.
You might be saying to yourself, ya it looks like our head is pulled towards our plates when we are hungry and shoveling it home but that isn't what I'm referring to today. What I have noticed lately is a strange phenomenon that has people weighed down by the food not in their mouths but actually outside of their mouths.
so I saw someone eating a sandwich the other day and the piece of lettuce in the sandwich slid out after the bite leaving a piece of lettuce attached to the part in her mouth so it was left dangling there after hitting her chin. Instead of putting that lettuce in her mouth or tilting the head back to try and get gravity on her team she bent forward towards her plate with her arms tentatively coming up to grab the lettuce. It was as if her head suddenly weighed triple its regular weight and she had no choice but to move to the plate.
This is a common maneuver when eating spaghetti as well. everything is happy with the noodles and the sauce and then there is a piece that is longer than its friends and it doesn't make it into the mouth. children know how to combat this, slurping. Adults, who have been groomed not to slurp become victims of the head weight where the utensils are suddenly useless and the head gets pulled towards the plate as if the rest of the body is helpless. It's as if food hitting the chin activates this strange occurrence.
Now, I've seen this happen before where the food doesn't quite make it into the mouth but it doesn't stay with the rest of the food on the plate and ends up on the chin. In these situations it is as if food hitting chin activates the heavy head and cripples the arms from helping. people start diving into their plates into this hunchback position all in the effort to keep their manners and not look foolish.
heavy heads while eating, guaranteed you'll notice it next time. ;)
You might be saying to yourself, ya it looks like our head is pulled towards our plates when we are hungry and shoveling it home but that isn't what I'm referring to today. What I have noticed lately is a strange phenomenon that has people weighed down by the food not in their mouths but actually outside of their mouths.
so I saw someone eating a sandwich the other day and the piece of lettuce in the sandwich slid out after the bite leaving a piece of lettuce attached to the part in her mouth so it was left dangling there after hitting her chin. Instead of putting that lettuce in her mouth or tilting the head back to try and get gravity on her team she bent forward towards her plate with her arms tentatively coming up to grab the lettuce. It was as if her head suddenly weighed triple its regular weight and she had no choice but to move to the plate.
This is a common maneuver when eating spaghetti as well. everything is happy with the noodles and the sauce and then there is a piece that is longer than its friends and it doesn't make it into the mouth. children know how to combat this, slurping. Adults, who have been groomed not to slurp become victims of the head weight where the utensils are suddenly useless and the head gets pulled towards the plate as if the rest of the body is helpless. It's as if food hitting the chin activates this strange occurrence.
Now, I've seen this happen before where the food doesn't quite make it into the mouth but it doesn't stay with the rest of the food on the plate and ends up on the chin. In these situations it is as if food hitting chin activates the heavy head and cripples the arms from helping. people start diving into their plates into this hunchback position all in the effort to keep their manners and not look foolish.
heavy heads while eating, guaranteed you'll notice it next time. ;)
Wednesday, 17 August 2011
dance audition
a few weeks ago I auditioned for a dance company. this dance company would have turned me into one of 'the source kids'. For months I thought about this audition and the possibility of not only getting in and being able to grow and work with so many different choreographers and teachers but also to be part of a group and being constantly challenged. for months I battled with the thought of should I stay where I am and be able to save money and teach my students or should I go an have a new experience. Ultimately I auditioned and had a lot of fun during my audition but I unfortunately did not get accepted. it didn't sink in until after my vacation but when it sank in, it hurt pretty bad. I cannot recall feeling this disappointed in a long time, but that's life and that's the way it goes. Instead of me recounting every last detail of the audition itself I will instead copy and past part of a conversation I was having with an old classmate and now friend of mine who I spent the afternoon before my callback with:
Hey Marcus! I don't know how I missed this message until today ... Sorry to hear that you won't be moving to Vancouver :( So, where did your disappointment come from? Not getting into thw company or
not having a reason to move? Both? Or, was it a disappointment with your own performance? I only ask because thwr
.... Ok, I really Hate the return function on my IPad ... Sorry for the disjointed message ...
So, I only ask because the real reason is a good indicator of where you want to be and what you want to be doing. I'm sure you have the talent and the potential to have been accepted ... Perhaps it was your reluctance (fear or uncertainty?) that manifested in your second performance ... Use this as a reference point for figuring out where you are at right now and what the best transition - if any - would be. My feeling is that you will "outgrow" your current circumstances sooner than you might imagine ... But, there are always safety nets that keep us comfortable and make the choice to change or leave really difficult. But, deep inside you already know this :) I hope you visit again when you're next in Vancouver
hi M,
when I reflect on it I am disappointed for both reasons you have outlined. I am disappointed that I did not get in because I really wanted to be able to be pushed on a daily basis, to be a part of a group/team, to grow dynamically and meet people and be interacting with people on a regular basis that are as passionate about the same things I am passionate about. I am however, also disappointed to not have a reason to move. I don't feel as though I need to move but I do know that I am ready to start a new chapter in my life, what that chapter is I'm not yet sure but the thoughts that come to mind immediately are dancing, working, and relationships. my life is 'comfortable' but I think perhaps I need a shake up of some sort.
As far as my second night performance goes, it could very well have been my fear or apprehension getting the best of me. I was hesitant at the idea of moving, however when I reflected on it and truly listened to my inner clarity I knew I wanted in and I knew that if I got accepted that I would have gone. I said openly to people who asked/were willing to listen that it would be easier if I auditioned and did not get accepted. This way, the difficult decision would be made for me. I wonder if me verbalizing this statement on more than one occasion affected my universal energy and what was bound to happen to me.
n terms of "outgrowing" my situation, I agree with you. perhaps it is again something I know deep internally within myself or maybe because I just watched 'the soloist' and it has me reflecting on my life, it's meaning, and the personal connections I have formed but I feel as though I will outgrow my current situations as well. how that will present itself in the future I have yet to determine.
my note goes on to speak of other things but there is a brief snapshot of a disappointment and one conversation that ensued.
Hey Marcus! I don't know how I missed this message until today ... Sorry to hear that you won't be moving to Vancouver :( So, where did your disappointment come from? Not getting into thw company or
not having a reason to move? Both? Or, was it a disappointment with your own performance? I only ask because thwr
.... Ok, I really Hate the return function on my IPad ... Sorry for the disjointed message ...
So, I only ask because the real reason is a good indicator of where you want to be and what you want to be doing. I'm sure you have the talent and the potential to have been accepted ... Perhaps it was your reluctance (fear or uncertainty?) that manifested in your second performance ... Use this as a reference point for figuring out where you are at right now and what the best transition - if any - would be. My feeling is that you will "outgrow" your current circumstances sooner than you might imagine ... But, there are always safety nets that keep us comfortable and make the choice to change or leave really difficult. But, deep inside you already know this :) I hope you visit again when you're next in Vancouver
hi M,
when I reflect on it I am disappointed for both reasons you have outlined. I am disappointed that I did not get in because I really wanted to be able to be pushed on a daily basis, to be a part of a group/team, to grow dynamically and meet people and be interacting with people on a regular basis that are as passionate about the same things I am passionate about. I am however, also disappointed to not have a reason to move. I don't feel as though I need to move but I do know that I am ready to start a new chapter in my life, what that chapter is I'm not yet sure but the thoughts that come to mind immediately are dancing, working, and relationships. my life is 'comfortable' but I think perhaps I need a shake up of some sort.
As far as my second night performance goes, it could very well have been my fear or apprehension getting the best of me. I was hesitant at the idea of moving, however when I reflected on it and truly listened to my inner clarity I knew I wanted in and I knew that if I got accepted that I would have gone. I said openly to people who asked/were willing to listen that it would be easier if I auditioned and did not get accepted. This way, the difficult decision would be made for me. I wonder if me verbalizing this statement on more than one occasion affected my universal energy and what was bound to happen to me.
n terms of "outgrowing" my situation, I agree with you. perhaps it is again something I know deep internally within myself or maybe because I just watched 'the soloist' and it has me reflecting on my life, it's meaning, and the personal connections I have formed but I feel as though I will outgrow my current situations as well. how that will present itself in the future I have yet to determine.
my note goes on to speak of other things but there is a brief snapshot of a disappointment and one conversation that ensued.
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